Life is a mirror 

I believe that situations in life turn up to reflect our unintegrated psychology straight back to us. For example, when a friend invited all of our old friendship group somewhere except for me, I felt hurt. I didn’t need to waste too much time blaming her though, as I knew to go inside my body and find out where the feeling lived and to work with it directly.

Sure enough I found a story about “no one cares about me” in my head, so I stopped what I was doing and I held it, and cuddled it. I cuddled it as I would cuddle a hurting child. Then, I breathed with this part of myself and invited God into it, to heal it.

Who knows why I wasn’t included, and yes I felt disappointed about it. Yet, I seized the opportunity to free myself of a childhood belief that “no one cared about me”! The friend who didn’t include me, gave me the gift of highlighting to me an old story, whose time it was to dissolve.

As we release these old limited viewpoints, situations either won’t arise to reflect them back to us, or they will not give us an emotional charge. That sounds pretty awesome to me!

This therefore means that any time something happens that doesn’t make us feel good, we need to STOP and investigate our consciousness. We can ask “how does this situation make me feel about myself”?

Let’s practice

I’d like you to think of a situation that is bothering you right now. How does that situation make you feel about yourself?

Stop and turn within and ask yourself “How do you feel?”

Then try “why do you feel like that?”

What are the words that arise within your consciousness? It could be something like “I’m not good enough”, or “life is unfair” ???.

Make a note of it. Let’s give it some air time. Let’s acknowledge this part of you that has been feeling alone for a long time.

Now you see it, you have found your next step towards freedom. You have found the negative self belief that you are holding about yourself or about life, that is now within your reach to nurture and release.

What to do with this feeling? 

Now what to do with it? You will need to find a chosen tool or technique to help you to integrate this little guy. There are so many techniques available. Techniques like The Journey or Somatic healing are some of my favourites.

I have tried quite a few healing techniques over the years and I must say that recently I have found the most simple technique that just works with the raw energy itself. It does not involve reliving it, it does not involve even having to talk about it. It simply involves being present with it in the body and using a breathing technique to dissipate it’s intensity. Here is the link to Dr Sue Morter’s work. I recommend it as it is very simple and powerful.

If you want to just work with it on your own though, just start with the steps that I mentioned above. Here they are again.

1. If you are feeling triggered, STOP and find a quiet space.

2. Go within your body and find out where the feeling lives.

3. Ask it how it feels?

4. Ask it why it feels like that?

5. Whereabouts in the body is it? KNOW where it is in the body and bring your presence right inside it, so that you can feel all of it’s sensations.

6. Cuddle the feeling and breath with it. Be with it.

7. Invite God or your higher power into it.

8. Repeat this regularly.

 Conclusion

The above practice is a great place to start in freeing yourself to be your most magnificent Self. It is a wonderful act of Self Love. Day by day, step by step, we can nurture and integrate those parts of ourselves that are distorting the magnificence of who we truly are.

In conclusion, we can choose to believe that we are victim to a random and hurtful world, or we can choose to see that difficult situations actually present themselves to us, in order to highlight our unresolved psychology – so that we can be free. Free to be our magnificent Christ Selves.

This is not intended to be a substitute for professional medical advice and should not be relied on as health or personal advice. Always seek the guidance of your doctor or other qualified health professional with any questions you may have regarding your health or a medical condition