Realistic expectations of others helps my peace and wellbeing 

I am seeing that my expectations of others has been a major stumbling block on my path to peace. My expectations have been completely out of wack. Yes I have experienced much kindness and care from others, and at the same time I have also experienced trauma from the disrespect and selfishness of others.

On the path to ascension I am starting to remember that a lot of people on this planet do not currently have ascension goals and aspirations. That is okay. People have the right to be selfish, to come from fear and to think solely about themselves. We have all done it. It is a necessary part of the path, to experience what it feels like to be selfish and God has clearly given us the gift of free will.

Furthermore, the reality is that at this point in time, the planet is in a situation in which many of us have descended here and immersed ourselves into a consciousness of individualism and self achievement. Competition is favoured over co-operation. Me above you rather than me with you. Therefore I am finally getting real with where I am.

Be the lighthouse

The trick is to get my consciousness to the point where it doesn’t demand or need anything from the external world. Where I can deeply know that I am completely loved and cared for by God. Where I always look to my deeper Spirit as the source of my wellbeing. Where I can be self validating, self nurturing, and identified as the Christ that I AM. Where I don’t allow others behaviours to prevent me from expressing the Love that I AM.

We are called to be the light in the darkness. A lighthouse does not seek to get it’s light from the outer world. It reaches deep within itself to generate the light and then shines it light endlessly on others. I finally get it. I am in the process of turning myself into a lighthouse.

To do this I am going to need to drop expectations of others and seek to find my nourishment from the Christ within. Christ can nourish me directly if I allow time and space to commune with my deeper Spirit. Christ can also nourish me from people, places and animals in the outside world, however I trust that my needs will be met from a source that is best suited for me. Not necessarily how my thinking mind expects.

Anything I do in this world can be an opportunity to bless and share Christ’s light. That is enough. If I expect to get anything back from the outer world then I have already set myself up for suffering. It is absolutely wonderful if I do receive love and blessings back from the outer world, but I am training myself not to expect it or demand it. I am realistic about where I am, and I remember that this place is not always in congruence with love. We are all here in an exploration of consciousness, of which free will is a pinnacle point. The minute I am judging someone else’s free will, I am singing out of tune.

Of course, there is a very valuable place for boundaries.  If someone is treating me with disrespect, I have the power to place a limitation on how much time I spend with them, if at all.  This is where I find my power, by honouring my limitations.  The time of being a doormat is over.

In conclusion

I personally choose to do everything I can to dissolve any part of myself that is not in resonance with LOVE so that before long I can live in the fullness of the Christ that I AM. The Christ that WE ALL ARE. This means I must get my expectations in check and allow some space for others to be selfish and in disharmony with their Christ Selves. This helps me to be freer to respond from my Christ Self, rather than from my reactionary egoic self with all it’s rules and expectations on how life should be. May all situations be used to shape me to be the living embodiment of the Christ that I AM. Amen.

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